6 likely reasons you are still single.
Does it ever seem like everybody else on the planet is happily paired off with a perfect partner except you? Don’t sweat it, this does not mean there’s anything “wrong” with you, there is more singles than ever before and here are the 6 most common reasons why people are still single. Can you relate to one?
1. You actually want to be
Let’s get the most obvious reason out of the way, lots of people are single simply because they prefer it. Maybe you value your ability to do what you want, when you want, and not having to compromise or collaborate with anyone else. But sometimes just recognizing the fact that you actually like being alone can help you feel more at peace with your single status.
2. You are too social
Single, ready to mingle, as the saying goes. But if you’re out every night it can be a hindrance.
A lot of people are single, busy, lots of mates, busy diary, but then when they meet someone it’ll be “three weeks on Thursday” before they can go on the date.
If you're not willing to compromise your social life for a date, then you have no reason to wonder why you are still single. Your future partner isn’t going to magically appear before your eyes. If you want them, you have to go get them!
3. Your walls have walls
You’ve been hurt in the past and have a million different walls up. All with a unique, complex locks that only you know the codes for. Stop romanticizing the notion that someone in shining armour should ride up on a white horse and scale those walls. That is an unfair expectation of anyone. If you really want a relationship to work with someone, you need to be willing to work on tearing down your own walls.
4. You're stuck in a "situation-ship'
Better known as the “Friends with benefits" relationship, most people these days like to avoid the responsibilities that comes with being in a relationship so they just prefer to have their sexual needs met without being emotionally attached to anyone.
Getting out of this type of relationship gets tough when one party gets emotionally attached. The only way out of this is having a discussion about what you both want and if it doesn’t match your needs, take a further step to end it and move on.
5. You are too busy
Life gets really busy sometimes (especially if you’re an ambitious go-getter who wants to do everything). A relationship is a big investment in time, energy, and emotion. What good is a partner if you’re too busy to spend any time with them? You might re-enter the dating arena after the dust settles, but for now your need for achievement trumps your need for companionship.
6. You are still hung up on your ex
Moving on from someone you once loved can prove tough but, no matter how cliche it may seem, you broke up for a reason and now you have to go out and meet new people. Some breakups can leave you confused or have you questioning your worth. But give yourself another chance to love and stop pushing away people who make an attempt.